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Once, when I was walking out of the nicely chilled super market only to be hit by a blast of hot air I thought to myself, ‘Why have they put the heating on over the door way?’  I soon discovered that as I continued walking through the doorway, the heat did not go away! The heat was the outside temperature!

Everything often seems to be not quite as you would expect!

In the book ‘Goals: How To Get Everything You Ever Wanted Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible‘, author Brian Tracy states that it is our expectations that shape the world we live in. Usually what we expect to happen is exactly what will, because we select opportunities and make decisions based on these expectations which inevitably creates the outcome we expect.

Our whole lives are based on our expectations. Sometimes our expectations can be so rigid that we don’t allow ourselves time to create dreams and explore them. And it is this lack of exploration that stops us from creating them. We assume too quickly that they can’t happen and dismiss them.

But this doesn’t have to be the case.

A few years ago, I had a scenario in my own life that I frequently liked to evaluate. I would think to myself, ‘Wouldn’t it be great if I could create this situation?’ I spent time thinking about it, playing with it in my imagination. Although it seemed impossible to create, I continued to focus my attention on it.  I had an expectation that it could only be achieved in a certain way or not at all, yet I still explored it despite any doubts. The more I looked at it, the more I wanted it and the more I was compelled to make it happen.

Not long after, a strange thing happened. I found myself standing on a beach in the middle of the Gower in South Wales. I remember taking a moment to take in my surroundings. In front of me stood three young ladies with whom the dream centered around, including two other key characters.

And I suddenly realised – I was standing in the middle of my dream and it was a reality! I had made it happen! The dream hadn’t come about the way I had expected it would, it had found itself another option, another way.

Afterwards, the solution to my next dream was handed to me on a plate. I had thought of the solution before, but deemed it inappropriate to ask the person that needed to be involved if they would help me. And yet, without my expecting it, I had set up an amazing situation that compelled the other person to make a generous offer!

It hadn’t happened as I had expected it. But the difference was that I expected that one day it could and would happen. The details of how and when had taken on a life of their own!

If you have a dream or a vision of what you want to achieve, don’t dismiss it as something impossible. Use your imagination to play with it and make it compelling. As you do this, expect it to happen one day in some way. You may not be able to see right now how it will ever be possible, but the more compelling and inviting you make the vision, the more you will align your decisions up today so that will get you the tomorrow that you want.